Okay so i'm gonna give you some background first..Me & my boyfriend have been together for a year now. We met through other friends & at first, were friends together. He came out & about with me & my friends more frequently. I was really getting excited about him. He was like no other guy i'd met. He then one day asked for my mobile number. I was very interested to know him better, so i gave him my number. We spoke a lot & we had so much in common. He asked me to meet him many times. I wasnt so sure after all past relationships turning out bad etc so at first, i tried not to fall in too deep & i was reluctant. He held on & waited. I eventually thought, why not, its only a meeting. So i text him & asked him & he said yes. Our first meeting was really good....(blahblahblah, usual getting to know stuff. Then got together as boyf/girlf) ... we were really careful for the first few months, not once did either of us mention anything sexual, we didnt argue, we didnt even tend to disagree. He was so sweet, he treated me like a princess, he bought me cute little presents, flowers, told me he loved me constantly. After the first time we had sex, obviously we both came to realise this really was serious & we were both in love. Everything was still perfect, but the problem was (which i didnt realise was a problem at the time) we spent LOADS of time together. I mean, after about 5 & 1/2, 6 months of seeing him, i cut out my friends pretty much, i saw them once a week & that was occasionally. He was pretty much the same & we were still so in love. Disagreements, but we would make up very quick & they were never heated, full-blown arguments.

Then, this holiday came, 8 weeks of no college for him & the end of school for me until college in september. This is the longest that we have had the potential to spend with each other. Everything was fine & dandy for the first 2 weeks, we had a blast as usual. But then we had a little set-back that hit both of us pretty hard. My GP diagnosed me with depression, which i had never experienced before & he said was obvious to him as being a side affect of the brand of birth control pill i had been taking. So obviously, i changed pill. But then, me & my boyfriend started disagreeing more often...Basically, everything kind of... snowballed for me in my head. I have had a lot of worries recently, a lot of things that i need to sort out in my head & they've affected us, with me crying to him etc.

Then both him & us as a couple began changing. In the past 2/3 weeks i feel like i no longer know the person that he is. He doesnt seem bothered about me at all. He didnt want to spend time with me or help me to try to get through the depression. He had his own problems though, stressful ones which i understand completely. But the trouble is, it was & still is getting to the stage now where hes not at all bothered about seeing me or being in contact with me. I have spoken to him on numerous occasions about how i feel we have changed as a couple. He wants to be out with his friends constantly (to the point where he even asks what time i'll be leaving or going to bed so he can go out) & i can tell how happy he is when he's with them, he doesnt get that with me. Hes just totally changed.
We dont go out anywhere & he isnt all sweet & romantic anymore. He seems to think were fine & when i say he's changed, he just says, "But i don't understand how, no one else has said it. I still love you." But is it just 'habit' for him to say he loves me, or does he?

Just recently, i decided to take a step back. I looked back at my actions & i understood why he was getting further away from me. It was like i was desperate, I was chasing him, i was putting all my effort into the relationship & it just felt like he was taking me for granted cause at the end of the day, no matter how he acted, he knew i'd still be there. He's fed up of me i think. I broke down infront of my own dad, i told him everything & we had a long chat. It made it easier cause i knew he wasnt gonna tell me what i wanted to hear & i could get a male's perspective. The thing he said that stuck out to me was, "If he realy loves you, he'll chase you. No matter how he feels in himself, he'll come after you." So, i didnt text him, & he forwarded the same messages to me 4/5 times until he text me saying,
"What have i done? Why arent you texting me, you havent txt me back since late last night. Don't you want me anymore? What have i done? iloveyoulots x x"
This was completely different from texts he had been sending me previously, i could sense the annoyance with me in his past texts. So, i felt bad but i just text him back saying,
"I do want you. I'll ring you later iloveyoulots xx"
Then he started trying to make me feel bad which kinda worked so i text him just normal, not like i was eager to talk to him like i have been in the past. I got told by a girlfriend that if i back off, show i have independance, he should come running if he loves me. But he now hasn't text me for almost 7 hours. So, is it working? He was the last to text me, but i didnt text back cause it was just a pretty basic, "haha, iloveyoulots x" so the convo had kind of died, so i left it, thinking he'd text me later. Nothing.

I dont know what to do. I have this constant knot in my stomach. I love him so so much, my feelings havent changed at all, even if he doesnt show me any affection anymore. Am i expecting too much? Its hit me so hard, going from this person that tells me how much he loves me all the time, being so romantic & sweet, to this as we are now. Should i wait longer & carry on with the same, 'independance' thing? Help!